*This post is apart of our “Dear Friend” series. These letters have all been written by women who want you to know that you are not alone in your struggle*
Dear Friend Struggling With Your Husband’s Sexual Addiction,
I want you to know that you are not alone!
This is a struggle very few people gather the courage to talk about, because sometimes the reactions of others are worse than keeping it hidden.
Sexual addiction has impacted my entire marriage, but I didn’t found out about it until several years into our marriage. Since founding out, I’ve kept it mostly hidden.
I was so ashamed. I felt like a failure as a wife. I felt unloved, rejected, replaced, worthless, and forgotten. I stayed in the darkness and let the darkness convince me that my marriage was the only one locked in this struggle.
If you are feeling that way today, I want you to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Your husband’s addiction is not a reflection of your worth. You are worth knowing. You are worth being loved. I want you to know that you did not cause his addiction, you can’t control it, and you can’t change him. That is something God must do.
This is a trial I never imagined I would be in. But God has been with me. Even when I’ve felt completely alone, He has been with me, pressing His truth into my heart. He has shifted my focus from relying on my husband’s love, acceptance, and faithfulness to relying on His.
God loves you. He is with you through this journey. He will use this in your life to bring light into the dark places. And through your journey you will be able to speak life to another hurting sister. (2 Corinthians 1:4)
You have great worth and beauty.
And, sweet Sister, whether you feel it or not, you are strong.
I am praying for you.
Dear Friend Struggling With Your Husband’s Sexual Addiction, you are not alone!